Karl Yabes is a friend from California State University, Fullerton.
As a recent graduate for Cal State Fullerton, I’ve found how it might seem crazy to think, but hanging out with your “friends” who are still going to school is much harder than it seems. This is something I have been struggling to cope with in the recent months. There are a few factors apart of my current feelings:
0.Being very involved in a college organization.
0.Having friends outside of certain social bubbles
0.Society we live in about meeting random people
Let me go more in depth…
As the immediate past president of my college organization, I was heavily involved with everything it had to do, from service projects, interacting with members, and all of the operations. It was a little boring after it was all over, and what sucks is that all of the friendships and memories I made don’t really make it past college.
While I was involved with other obligations, this unfortunately restricted me to pursue opportunities in alternative actives with different groups of people. I could had joined PASA, (Filipino Club, I actually would had hated myself if I really join them) Rotaract, Business Frats, etc. There are so many more people who I could had connected with.
This third point may come as a rant but it’s okay, this is just my opinion. With the advancement of technology, we live in a world where people can escape social interaction, which can be viewed as a pro for some and a con for others. So in the situation comes when a random person talks to you, it comes off strange and creepy instead of a genuine person trying to have a decent conversation to kill the time and go on with their respective ways. Because of this idea, this stops me from talking to people who come across my life with my insecurities of annoying them. So, I tend to stay within my own bubble, unless it’s CKI which taught me the opposite lol
Overall, I’ve come to accept the fact that some of my friends still in college chooses to neglect me and cancel on plans to catch up. Unfortunately I did the same to friends who left college before me. With this lesson I hold not grudges and now that I’m out of college, trying to reconnect with my old friendships that has slowed down over the years. The lesson to be learned is that the 7 year friendship rule does really exist. If you don’t know about that rule, well maybe John will blog about it one day.
